Called To Be God’s Woman:

A Titus 2 Woman

KEY VERSE:  Titus 2:2-5                                      Lesson 4 – Practicing, So We Can Walk

                                                                               Scriptures for Lesson 4 – Titus 2:1-10;

  

OPENING: What do these things have in common? 

 

                          Learning a new song;

                          A child learning to read;

                          Competing in the Olympics;

                          Hitting a home run?

                          Becoming an expert in any field?

 

              The answer is PRACTICE!  PRACTICE!!  PRACTICE!!!

 

      Practicing is available to any and all of us.  There are no age barriers or

Limitations as to how much we could practice.  The only limitations are those

that are self-inflicted… when we DON’T practice. 

 

      Our lesson tonight will concern the believer and in particular, practicing

consistently and perseveringly what we say we believe.  If we don’t practice, we

can’t walk.  Who among the believers are to practice their new life?  Question 1

brings this more in focus.

 

                1.  From [B] Titus 2:1-10 what people make up the congregation?

                    Aged men, aged women, young women, husbands and wives,

children, young men.

                

                 We see there are various relationships within the congregation:

                     masters and servants; husbands and wives, parents and children.

             

APPLICATION: 

 

            The congregations today pretty much are made up of the same groups of

people.  The first group are those that constitute a home and the second, those

who are employers and employees.  God is no respecter of persons. (Acts 10:34;

Deut. 10:17; 2 Chronicles 19:7).  God’s Word is the same for all of His creation and

more importantly His Word, given in Titus, remains the same for us today. 

 

             No one is exempt from God’s Word, although the unbelieving world may

disagree with what they hold to be antiquated values and standards.  Because the

world’s standard is not God’s standard, the world’s priorities are different from

God’s priorities.  Priorities without God’s Word as our standard will be imperfect

logic, imperfect wisdom and imperfect understanding. 

 

2.  What does the Bible have to say about God’s priorities?  To find this

answer we first must see what God’s Word says about Seeking God, Himself. 

[Homework instruction:  Look up the following verses and list your findings from God’s Word

as it relates to seeking God.]

SEEKING GOD:

 

a.  Deut. 4:29 [B] Tells us HOW to seek God:  

      “But if from thence thou shalt seek the Lord thy God, thou shalt find him,

if thou seek him with all thy heart and with all thy soul.”

 

            (R.Q.) More concisely, how can we apply this verse?  How are we

to seek God?  We are to seek Him with ALL!  What does this mean to you? 

           

    Q. - What does it mean to seek God with ALL? 

              With your daily  routine?  With your decisions?  With your needs?

              With your worries?  With your responsibilities?  With your future? 

              With your ministry?  With your shortcomings?  With your time?

               Your families and extended families? And the list can go on…when

                      we include ALL!

 

    Q. - Why do you think God says in His Word to seek Him with all?

 

    A.  - Going back to Deut. 4:29, “We shall find Him.”  Think of all the aggravation

and worries we put ourselves through because we don’t seek God with ALL.  Clearly,

we have His response.  This is a conditional verse: “if” we do what God tells us to do, then, we will have the answers we need.  The answers will not be ours, but His.  And,

we can be sure that His answers will bring glory to Him and be exactly what we need.. 

 

b.  Psalm 105:4Tells us one of the reasons WHY we need to seek God:

                              We need to seek God for His Strength! 

 

            We know that without God we are helpless to do what is needed to be done. 

We can flail our arms all we want, but we cannot fly.  We can spin our wheels and

do all we can to ‘do things ourselves’, but, without God’s strength; we leave ourselves open to depleting our energies and very often, wasting our time.  Think of it as going

to the instruction book and getting it right the first time.   Very often men are the object of a joke because they ‘won’t ask for directions’ or in assembling a new home item, they jump right in without reading the instruction book.  We know how that goes.  Yet, we do the same thing, do we not…when we don’t seek God as He commands us to do.

 

c.  Isaiah 55:6 – Tells us WHEN to seek God…basically now!  While He is found; while

He is near.  There’s no time like the ever-present moment to seek God.

 

d. [B] Matthew 6:33HOW to seek God?  First!!  This is our priority!

 

APPLICATION:  What about the cares of this world?  Food, bills, job, families

and relatives…These are things that are here and now…I can touch them, see them,

feel them!   And they are demanding of my time and energy!  BUT---God is first. 

God says to come to Him first!  To ask Him first!  To get His Wisdom and

Understanding FIRST!

 

            3. [Homework Instruction-If we seek God FIRST---we have various promises about

God’s provision for us.  According to the following verses, how does God’s promise: “all

these things shall be added unto you” relate to this promise?] 

 

The Bible speaks of David as being a man after God’s own heart. 

 

 

            In Psalm 37:25 he has this to testify concerning God’s faithfulness to the righteous: “I have been young, and now am old; yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken, nor his seed begging bread. 

 

            In Proverbs 4:1-13 [B] Solomon has this to say about seeking God’s instruction,

guidance, wisdom and understanding. 

 

                  What commands are given in Proverbs 4:4-8? 

 

            Vs. 4 – Retain God’s word; keep commandments

            Vs. 5 – Get wisdom, get understanding, forget it not, obey words.

            Vs. 6 – Forsake not and love wisdom

            Vs. 7 – Wisdom is the principal thing; get understanding!

            Vs. 8 – Exalt her; embrace her.

 

            God’s command to us requires our action, and, you will notice it is an

ongoing action:  To retain, to keep, to get wisdom, to not forget, to obey His word,

to love wisdom and to get understanding, to exalt and embrace wisdom…all of these speak of an ongoing action on our part. 

            God’s command to us is a persevering, ongoing command to us; one that will

not go away when it is done one or more times, nor does this command end. 

            We need to come to a place of making up our minds to want what God wants

for us and then ask Him for His Wisdom. 

 

                   What is the benefit/reward of following these commands?

 

             Vs. 4 – Live   To not obey sometimes may place us in a precarious situation

and in some cases, even shorten our lives.  We can make wrong choices without His

wisdom that will lead to a shortened life.  Proverbs 14:12 says, “There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.”

 

             Vs. 6 – Preserve us

 

             Vs. 8 – Wisdom will promote us, bring us to honor.  In I Samuel 2:30, God

says that if we honor Him, He will honor us.  Those that do not, He will not honor

and they will be “lightly esteemed.”

           

In Mark 10:29-30 [B] Jesus assures us of His blessing, when we are willing to seek

Him first over all earthly relationships.  This doesn’t just apply to Pastors and missionaries but to all believers. 

 

APPLICATION: 

            These are just a few of the many things we face in our lives.  What are our

needs?  Are they physical, material, emotional, spiritual?  We, who name the name

of Christ, must do as He says we are to do…Seek Him First.  We cannot pick and

chose when we will obey and when we will not obey Him.  Obedience is not an option.

 

            James 1:8 says, “A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.”  This

general instruction is foundational to what is to follow as Titus begins to select the

elders that are to shepherd the different groups of believers in the various cities. 

             

            God’s standards certainly are different from the world’s standards, as we

have seen thus far.  Why would God call us, as John MacArthur has said in his

book, *Your Family, to “a higher level of living, a different manner of life, another dimension of existence.”?    *page 59-60, Chapter 3, Sorting Out the Priorities

 

            4.  [B] Matthew 5:13-16

                        Q. What does this passage saying about believers and about God?  

                        A.  About believers:  We are salt on earth; we are light in the world.

Salt preserves, creates a thirst and cleanses.  If we are not salt, the earth is worthless.

As Light, we are to be prominent in showing our light in the world.

                              About God:  God will be glorified when we walk and talk as we should.

 

                        John MacArthur puts it this way: “We are living as salt and light in

 a decaying and dark society and God calls on us to live differently.”  He also adds that

“living differently is never easy.”  One of the things that makes it difficult is that even though we may know what God’s Word says and understand and agree with it, it is difficult  sometimes to apply because “we have  been influenced by a system that is at

odds with the Divine standard.”

 

                        What do you think about his statement?  

 

            5.  How can we believers, who are called to be distinctively different from the

world, face the pressure of obeying God while living in this world?  Read and note

your answers from each verse listed.

                                   

                        [B] Colossians 3:2Our mindset is to be on Heaven and not earth.

Notice the word, “set”.   We see from this small three-letter word a command.  We

must make up our minds to do as God commands us to do and then do it.  “Set” is not a goal of a good ideal to hope for, to reach for, but once again, an action to take.

 

Notice Scripture uses the word “affection”.  The Dictionary defines this as a “tender attachment”. The Thesaurus tells us ‘amiability, chumminess, friendliness’ are

synonymous with ‘affection’. 

 

            Q.  How then could we paraphrase this verse and apply it to our lives? 

            A.  Practically speaking, we can paraphrase this to read:  We must make

up our minds to obey God in attaching friendly and amiable thoughts to things that

pertain to Heaven and not to earth.  

 

                        [B] Ephesians 4:24 – We are to put on a ‘new self’.  This verse tells

us this new man is ‘created in righteousness and true holiness.”  This takes practice.

We are equipped through the Holy Spirit to be this new man, but it takes our determination to obey God and follow His prescribed path in this new life.

 

                        [B] Colossians 3:10 – We “have put on the new man”, that is we are

saved.  We have God the Holy Spirit living within us.  We are NEW Creatures in

Christ Jesus.  Yet the rest of this verse also tells us we need to be ‘renewed’.  No,

we don’t lose our salvation, but we do need to keep it ‘fresh’.  How do we do this? 

The verse says it is done by the knowledge of our Creator. 

 

            Q.   Why do you think Paul says the new man needs to be renewed? 

 

            A.    To keep the new man ‘fresh’, ‘renewed’, takes practice.  Remember at

the beginning we said the way to become proficient in any skill was practice.  We

need to be continually renewing our minds, as it says in Romans 12:2 [B].  Why? 

That we will be transformed more and more into the image of Christ, to the point

of His Life in me having pre-eminence and control. 

 

            When we ‘practice’ the renewing of our minds, replacing our ways with

God’s ways, the world’s thinking with His thinking, etc., in time His thinking will

have dominion over what we do and how we do it. 

 

These verses that follow tell us this very thing:

 

                        Ephesians 4:1 [B] –We have been called by God, we should have

a lifestyle that is worthy of Him and reflects Him. 

 

                        Ephesians 4:17 [B] – Don’t walk as the Gentiles, as the world walks.

 

The verses that follow vvs. 18-24 [B] tells us of the Gentiles’ lifestyle and morals.  

Their ways are not consistent with one who has been plucked out of the world and

now belongs to God’s family.  We are to walk in the ‘newness of life’. 

 

                        Colossians 1:13[B] - Says we have been “delivered from the power of darkness and …translated …into the kingdom of His dear Son:”.

 

CONCLUSION:  We have been saved to be different from the world, because

through Christ, we ARE different from the world and need to live on a daily basis manifesting that difference in our lives, for God’s glory.  That is our focus.  That is

our motivation.  That is our goal and our aim:  God’s glory!  And, as it says in

Ephesians 5:18, we are to “be filled with the Spirit.”

                       

            When we are filled with the Holy Spirit, we can and will do this; we will bring

Glory to God!

 

            Returning to Titus 2:1-10, we have already established who makes up the congregation.  And the instructions from God’s Word applies to every believer.  Continuing with Titus 2:2, let’s begin to zero in on the ‘aged men and women’.

 

            6.  According to Titus 2:2 [B] what should be the behavior of ‘aged men’ who

are believers? 

                     “Aged men are to be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity,

in patience.”

 

            7.  What do you notice about these moral characteristics for the aged men

and the characteristics required for an elder?

                        They are similar. 

 

            8.  Why do you think Paul addresses the aged men and gives them these

moral behavioral challenges?  

 

                     These men are to set an example in their homes, in the congregation

of all believers, including the slaves.  

                       

            9.  What long range effect could the aged men have in their homes?  In

the congregation?

 

                 Aged men, whether they hold office within the congregation or not, are

role models.  They are looked up to as examples and carry the responsibility as

aged men to not be the cause of another’s stumbling in the faith.

              

                 Also, if  within the church all men were to have these characteristics,

their homes would reflect the aged man’s    obedience to the Word and as each man

and each family obey this moral character, we will have harmony within the church. 

 

                These aged men are to be sober:  that is, sober by abstaining from

wine, and also sober in judgment concerning their choices, their words, their

habits.  To not abstain from wine could impair their judgment, their sensibility,

their self-control and play itself out in behaving in ways that would not become

their profession of faith; ways that would mar their testimony and not only their  testimony but also that of  the Lord Himself.

 

The second half of verse 2 says “sound in faith, in charity, in patience”. 

The soundness or the good health, refers to all three of these areas: faith,

charity or love, and patience.  Christian testimony or perhaps we can say:

the fruit that our believer’s walk produces, should manifest itself in these

three areas.  As these aged men live their faith, their faith will be evident

to others and it will spread itself or reproduce itself among other believers

within the body of Christ. 

 

R.Q.    What is a ‘sound’ or healthy faith?  One that is not luke-warm nor

mixed or polluted with the world’s values. 

 

R.Q.     What is a ‘sound’ or healthy love?  One that is not luke-warm; one

That doesn’t melt in fear at the sign of trouble; one that believes God and

doesn’t faint or become discouraged; one that doesn’t  give way to

            sentimentality over sin, to name a few examples.  And, also, a healthy love is   

            not insisting in one’s own way.  It is loving his neighbor more than himself.

       

            R.Q.     What is a ‘sound or healthy patience’?  It is waiting on the Lord,

            trusting Him daily as we wait on His answers for our lives and as we await

            His return.

 

             Being taught the doctrine of what aged men should be like will affect all

areas of their lives spiritually as a Child of God, as a Christian, as a husband,

as a father, as a grandfather, and how he behaves and obeys the doctrine will

affect all others with whom he comes into contact.  A god-fearing man can

affect our nation.  Although it is aged men who are addressed in verse 2, all

that we have said thus far, applies to us all.

                  

   10. Read the key verses: Titus 2:2-5, to yourself and in your own words, without

any cross-referencing or studying whatsoever, write your impression of what you

THINK these verses are saying.  Be specific.

 

  [This question is asked primarily as a point of reference to return to and compare

what you think now, with what you will have learned when the study is complete.]

               

             After reading Titus 2:2-5 I think these verses are saying…

 

            Again, I suggest you keep your notes in a notebook so you can come back

and refer to them at some future date.  Question 10 is one that you will want to

compare at some future date, with what you have learned.  It will be interesting to

see how your answers compare.

 

 Next week we will begin with Titus 2:3-5 and begin this key section of our study.